The price we Pay for love

I stumbled through this article and decide to post it here that at least for my own benefit and anybody who is grieving just like me and my family. Reading about grief somehow leads me to a better understanding of my loss. Acceptance might not happen overnight but listening and reading about other people who had already experienced the same ordeal is very significant in understanding my own and my family’s grief.

Our love for Anne Sherina is the bridge from where she is right now.

Grief: The Price We Pay For Love

by Darcie Sims, Ph.D., CGC, CHT

Grief is a NATURAL and NORMAL reaction to loss, loss of any kind. It is a physical, emotional, spiritual and psychological response. The death of a loved one is perhaps the most devastating loss one may experience. Yet, grief occurs following ANY change in our lives. Even positive changes can bring a momentary grief response.

Grief is a complex process, guided by our past experiences, our religious beliefs, our socio-economic situation, our physical health and the cause of the loss.

LOVE, ANGER, FEAR, FRUSTRATION, LONELINESS and GUILT are all part of grief. It is important to understand that grief is NOT a sign of weakness nor a lack of faith.

GRIEF IS THE PRICE WE PAY FOR LOVE.

Grieving may cause physical and behavioral changes such as: sleep irregularities, changes in appetite, gastro-intestinal disturbances, “heart ache”, restlessness, spontaneous crying, irritability, sighing or muscle tension.

Anger and guilt are common emotions. You may feel angry with God, your spouse, your children or with others, either involved or totally separate from the death. You may be angry with yourself. Guilt feelings often accompany or follow anger. You may want to withdraw and be left alone.

Depression, feelings of emptiness or hollowness may temporarily overcome you. You may experience headaches, tightness in the throat or chest, muscle aches, or burning sensation in your stomach.

GRIEF HURTS! You may, for a while, become preoccupied with images of your loved one. You may “see” or sense your loved one’s presence. You may begin to wonder if you are going crazy.

You can help yourself through grief:

1. Acknowledge the loss.
2. Accept the pain of grief. Try to live THROUGH it, not avoid it.
3. Share your thoughts and feelings. Find enough compassionate listeners. You can talk – – more than one person can listen!
4. Understand that each person has an individual timetable for grief. Each person grieves separately and differently. We move through grief at our own pace.
5. Find your sense of humor. Try to hang on to it!
6. Get some physical exercise. If nothing else, jog your memory.
7. Learn to hug again.
8. Accept yourself. Understand you are someone new. Acknowledge that change.
9. Begin to become the person you already are.
10.Remember, though death comes,

LOVE NEVER GOES AWAY!!!

God will make a way

God will make a way,
Where there seems to be no way
He works in ways we cannot see
He will make a way for me
He will be my guide
Hold me closely to His side
With love and strength for each new day
He will make a way, He will make a way.

By a roadway in the wilderness, He’ll lead me
And rivers in the desert will I see
Heaven and earth will fade
But His Word will still remain
He will do something new today.

God will make a way,
Where there seems to be no way
He works in ways we cannot see
He will make a way for me
He will be my guide
Hold me closely to His side
With love and strength for each new day
He will make a way, He will make a way

Love is stronger than death

Love is stronger than death.
So I must be content to know that
love is not affected by death–
it doesn’t end, it doesn’t diminish,
it doesn’t change.
Instead, love is immortalized
and eternalized through death.
And the possibility of that love ever
being damaged or broken
is eliminated forever.
I’ll put my trust in love.

Mary Hollingsworth | Source: Reprinted with permission of Andrews McMeel Publishing, from “Little Taps on the Shoulder From God” © 2002 Mary Hollingsworth

Our love will never die

I’m missing you so much today. Last night I cried out loud in my bed for knowing that it’s another day tomorrow without you. I can see you everywhere my child. All I can see is you lovely smile. I can’t help but crying each time I mention your name. I know this is a bit sign of “Christian Immaturity” but I know God is letting us to feel the grief and shed some tears because He knows how much we love you. Anne, please help us to overcome all this. I know wherever you are you are in good hands, in the hands of God. Honey, we’ve done everything but we can’t change God’s perfect master plan. We believe that Papa Jesus and our lovely angel Anne Sherina is always watching us. I know you’re not losing sight to Mama, Brennan Jester and Papa. I know you will be there when everything in Papa’s life will be fine. You’ve been praying and waiting for it to happen right? Don’t worry honey Papa is going to fight all odds because he knows that you want him to take good care of Mama and Brennan. We love you Anne.